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Tami B, age: 40-49, Connecticut
Tami's e-mail:
  tamib60@aol.com

BETTER DAYS AHEAD

My name is Tami. I have stage lllc breast cancer. I woke up one day in July and felt a lump in my right breast. I just knew it wasn't cancer since I just had my regular mammogram in October and all was fine. I started to have pain in my breast and I knew this wasn't cancer because a cancer lump was supposed to be pain free. A lot I knew. I had a very aggressive cancer. My first thought was of my grand daughter. She was not even a year old. I thought she'd never know me. My first husband died of a heart attack in 1998; she'd never know him. Now she would never know me.

At that moment I decided to fight. I am not going to let cancer beat me. I went through chemo hell. I lost my hair. I ended up losing my breast when the doctors told me the lumpectomy didn't get all of the cancer. I got an infection in the site of my mastectomy. I went through radiation. I now have problems with my right arm. Things like constant pain, numbness in my hand, and loss of the ability to hold or pick up anything with my right hand.

That's okay, I'm alive. I can feel the sun on my face. I can laugh with my son and very pregnant daughter. I can go out and smell the lilacs blooming in my yard. I can walk my dog.

I have a wonderful second husband who sadly is fighting his own battle with lung cancer. We have each other. The day I finished chemo, we found out Sal had cancer. One of my friends told me God must think I am a strong woman because he doesn't give us more than we can bear.

I have wonderful friends and co-workers who threw two fundraisers for me and one for Sal. I have my husband's wonderful family who do the things I can't do like mow the lawn. I have my first husband's family who are so supportive and pray for me every day.
People ask me how do you do it every day. There are days when I want to lay down and pull the covers over my head. Then I remember my Grandmother's voice when times get tough, focus on your blessings and remember there are better days ahead.

Tami's e-mail:  tamib60@aol.com

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